Be your Biggest Cheerleader

Sometimes we look for reassurance from those around us. We want those around us to rate or like what what we are doing. Now, if your friends are anything like mine, they will support you and encourage  and when launching this blog I received a lot of support from my friends and still do til… Read more »

Why I won’t just see how it goes

“I’ll see how it goes.” I hate this phrase. I can’t tell you one dream I have achieved seeing how anything was going to go. Some people say don’t force things and I agree. We all know what it’s like when we have forced a relationship or tried to push something through at the wrong… Read more »

Watch your words

What we say about ourselves is more important than what anybody says about us. It’s funny because people are sometimes more focused on what they hear or believe other people have said about them. I had a tough conversation with one of my closest friends about the words she used to describe herself. Aside from… Read more »

Bounce Back

I’ve made my fair share of mistakes. At work, in business and in collaborations, the list goes on but as you already know, the long term effect of a mistake on your reputation and on your confidence can be limited if you take the right action ASAP. Honesty is the best remedy for a mistake. Once… Read more »

5 things you need to do if you are heartbroken

Heartbreak is nuts. There isn’t anything worse than it (in my experience). It’s not just about a relationship break down – a failed business and a failed job are things which can also cause heartbreak. My main issue with heartbreak is there is no guaranteed recovery time: it’s not a 30 day guarantee. It can… Read more »

No More Fear

“Resist your fear, fear will never lead you to a positive end.” (T.D Jakes) Many of us are motivated by fear and it influences the choices we make in our lives and especially in our relationships. The fear that things won’t work out,  that we will be used, humiliated or we worry about what people will say… Read more »

Leave your anger behind

Anger isn’t all bad. We need to get angry sometimes. Anger demonstrates passion and (when used positively) can push through change. My anger pushed me to stand up for myself, fight for others and got me noticed when I was younger but it wasn’t always cute. Using anger to solve an injustice is one thing,… Read more »

Microaggressions at Work – Keep it Moving

Listen, unconscious bias is everywhere and it is usually working to the disadvantage of young black women in their professional lives. Think, if it is happening to us at clubs, restaurants, on the news and in your day to day life, it maybe, just maybe, be happening to you at work. I know for a… Read more »

No more false promises

We all make false promises – my number 1 is about timing. I will always say I am only ten minutes away when I know I am about 30 mins away. Ok, so it’s annoying for the person waiting for me but its not totally harmful. However some false promises are harmful and 9 times… Read more »

Criticism at work

No one likes criticism. Not from friends, family, strangers or colleagues. It is what it is. However, the way we work means that we will have appraisals, receive feedback and our work will be reviewed and on many occasions criticised. Criticism at work seems to sting more because it is never a purely transparent process…. Read more »